Each counselling session with me runs for about 50 minutes. During this time, I may ask some questions, and encourage you to talk about “what’s on your mind” and what might be troubling you. I strongly believe that I am not here to give advice but rather to help you find new ways to think about things, with the aim to get you feeling in control of your life.
As we only have 50 minutes together for each session it is really important for you to arrive on time. I typically see up to 10 clients a day with just a 10 minute gap between each one. This means that I have very little flexibility on the day and if you do happen to arrive late then I will still need to finish our session at the scheduled time. When you arrive for our session please wait in the waiting room. You will see a door bell in the waiting room with my name on – please ring it to let me know that you are here. I will come out of my office and greet you once I am free to see you.
At our first session we will need to get some paperwork together and begin to explore what has brought you to me. I also see our first session as a bit of a ‘chemistry check’ to make sure that we feel comfortable ‘working’ together. In the vast majority of cases I find that the rapport developed between myself and clients is very positive. However, very occasionally, there may be a clash of personality, approach or expectations etc meaning that we would find it difficult to produce meaningful outcomes for you – I need to let you know that IF this happens – it is OK! So if you do not feel comfortable with my psychological approach, or if my looks remind you of your arch enemy, or if you don’t like the sound of my voice, the gap in my teeth etc – then I won’t be offended ….. and if you need my help to find someone that you are more comfortable seeing then I will do what I can.
You will probably find the 50 minute session will go very quickly. I hope that you will find our sessions non threatening but ‘life changing’. I endeavour to get ‘change’ as quickly as possible and my average number of sessions of clients is 6 (however, they do range from 1 session to many more). Counselling success is essentially dependent on you taking an active part. It helps if you are open and honest with me (I am bound by laws of confidentiality) and committed to getting an positive outcome. Of course, it is not always an easy task but together we will work on resolving your issues.
If you are feeling nervous or apprehensive about seeing a Psychologist then you are not alone! Many people find it a little disconcerting at first telling their woes to a stranger. However, I have noticed a really positive shift in society over the past few years where seeing a good Psychologist is not only becoming more ‘acceptable’ but I find many people make appointments proactively (before they get bogged down in problems) as a kind ‘tune-up’ to keep their life on track. I also need you to know that many people see a Psychologist – in fact I have had over 1000 clients over my counselling career.